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The Love You Give Isn’t the Love I Need

3am Realizations (because introspection is better in the wee hours, yo!):

1. Circumstance does not change people; it reveals them.

2. People make time for everything they deem important. Anything that hasn’t been made time for isn’t a priority.

3. Your gut may not have been calibrated to match lab standards, but it won’t let you down. If something doesn’t feel right, then wake up and smell the chocolate, halfwit, perhaps it isn’t!

4. Boys—okay, men—are usually more trouble than they’re worth. If you’re not seeing anybody yet, don’t. Instead, get busy. Read more books, learn a new skill, make time for a new hobby. Do not ever panic that you’d miss out on what could very well prove to be true love; you won’t. You don’t need men to be happy; you only need yourself.

Moreover, men are a dime a dozen—and if it really is true love and it’s meant for you, you will find it; it will find you.

Which brings me to no. 5. Moments of clarity such as this come rarely, and when they do, you can forgive yourself for feeling like the Eye of the Tiger. Haha!

But seriously, I am grateful I woke up at three this morning, and got to think. I realize I do not like where I am at on a very personal level. I am regressing, not growing; needlessly putting myself through a vicious cycle of being taken for granted because I allow it. From now on, there shall be no more calm acceptance of breadcrumbs. If you want to be in my life, you earn your place in it. If you don’t want to, I won’t take it against you. Life is  too short and the world too big for that kind of myopia.We can be friends or we can be strangers. Either way, we will both be okay.

Alright, going back to bed now. Hahaha!


  1. FSJ

    Thank you. I needed this.

  2. vet

    “2. People make time for everything they deem important. Anything that hasn’t been made time for isn’t a priority.”

    spot on, achinette. this is what i always tell my college friends. if one uses “busy” as reason for not doing something, then “that” which the person chose to spend time on is the person’s priority, and not anything else. you ALWAYS make time, or find time for something important to you. you move time, you arrange time, ug uban pa..